Thursday, December 9, 2010

Friends

What makes you "like" or "not like" someone? This was my thought today as TLC and I headed out of my little valley to visit a friend and her little girl.
The person I went to see is also my running partner. I met her through another friend about two years ago.(They are Neighbors) We will call friend one. Mrs. S and Friend to Mrs. R.
Mrs S is kind of an intense in your face person. As I started getting to know her I found out why. She had a pretty f'ed up childhood. All in all she turned out pretty good. She put herself through college and ended up with a BA. She is, as far as I can tell, a very loyal and smart and funny person. Mrs R is also one of my good friends. She however does not really like Mrs. S. Mrs S doesn't really know this. She gets her feelings hurt by it quite regularly. Mrs R feels that Mrs. S is too clingy and nosy. That she doesn't understand boundaries.
After I started running with Mrs S, Mrs. R got real pissy about it. Not really to me but to Mrs. S. It has made me feel uncomfortable to go over to either of their houses. (They live next door to each other)
I can sort of see why Mrs. R would feel like Mrs. S is a little forward. However, knowing Mrs S's back story I can understand why she is like that.
I guess this whole rambling blog comes down to If you don't like someone let them know it. Don't invite them to your parties etc. And for goodness sake don't introduce them to people if you can't handle your friends having a friend more then you. Cripes I feel like I am in high school again.
Sorry for the vent.

2 comments:

Vaquerogirl said...

I'm sorry you are having fifth grade trouble in your third decade of life. That really sucks. I do have some of the same issues in my friendships(you know who they are) and it is terrible to deal with, but I know that like me, you will stay true to yourself, and the others will have to pick up the pace, as you will, to keep up with you.
Maybe some of these other blog frineds will have a good solution for you!

The Wife said...

See, this is why I have no friends. Well, that's the reason I'm saying. Others may tell another. ;)

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